Creating a New Paradigm

Have you ever wondered what it might feel like to live in a world where women are honored and respected? A world where girls can run freely to play and express themselves and where sex is something that is natural and considered sacred regardless of how you choose to express it. Where womena and girls feel safe in their bodies and empowered.

I have, many times, since my mission you might say is to help establish such a world or at least help to bring it forth. I have wondered what would it take to create this type of world and how we might go about it? Establishing a new paradigm is no easy task and it cannot be done by just wishing and hoping.  What it takes is a definite concrete plan of some sort which includes new ideas and new ways of thinking and being. 

So before I speak about what you can do to help us create this new paradigm,  I want to review where we are now in the culture that we are living in. For as we establish a new paradigm for women, men will change too. 

I want us to take a look at what women, you and I perhaps, have been told and accepted as the norm over the decades even when we knew it did not feel right.

• Be sexually appealing to men.
• Be available sexually for men.
• Be pretty and have a sexy figure.
• Know how to handle a man to get what we want.
• Be willing to use our bodies and sex to manipulate and get what we want.
• Be mean and competitive with other women.
• Flaunt and exploit our sexuality for money, fame or​

​Women have been taught to:

• Not ask for what they want.
• Use their sexuality to get something they want.
•  Say yes when they mean no.
• Let themselves be objectified for money.
• Feel dis-empowered and victimized.

This paradigm has caused women feel:

• Not safe to express their sexuality in public. 
• Unsafe to be in their own body. 
• The need to repress, hide or exploit their sexuality. 
• Objectified and valued for their looks and their sex appeal. 
• Dishonored and disrespected for being a woman. 
• Victimized and powerless over their own life.

Maybe you have felt some of these things or acted in some of these ways and not realized how dysfunctional it was and​ how easily you may have fallen into this type of behavior or had these sorts of feelings. Even if you see yourself as a fairly liberated woman, independent and self-sufficient you can not escape the climate and tenor of the environment of misogyny and sexual objectification. The only way to escape this is to create a new way of living, thinking and feeling about women and women's sexual power.

If you, as I do, want to live in that world I briefly described above, then together we must take a stand for the things we do want and begin to take the action necessary to create that world. 

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