​For Thousands of years, the story of womanhood has been written and distorted by men. They defined what it meant to be feminine. They decided what made a woman “sexy,” “acceptable,” or “pure.” They projected their desires onto us, then wrapped those projections in religion, education, and culture until we began to believe them as our own.

But make no mistake: this version of womanhood was never ours.

This distortion began long ago, in the story of Genesis and during the rise of the Bronze and Iron Ages. The reverence for the Great Mother—the ancient feminine force of creation, intuition, and life—was slowly replaced by a masculine god of war, control, and conquest.

The true story of Lilith as the First Woman was replaced by a more subservient Eve, and with that shift came the quiet erasure of the feminines rightful power—her sexual power.

From ancient scriptures to school books, from pulpits to pop culture, we've been conditioned to believe that owning our sexual power makes us dangerous, unworthy, or unlovable. We’ve been taught to fear the very thing that makes us divine.

Women who dared to embody their sensual, sovereign selves were labeled immoral, wild, inappropriate—even punished. And for many of us, even now, those inherited beliefs still live quietly inside. They show up in the mirror, in the bedroom, in our choices about our bodies, desires, and voices.

Herstory Was Rewritten

The sacred feminine was stripped from the collective memory. And in her place, a story was born that made women forget who they truly are. Why? Because a woman in her full power—sensual, sexually sovereign, embodied—is unstoppable, and that kind of woman cannot be controlled.

 When you separate a woman from her sexual energy, her innate, primal, authentic power, you separate her from her life force. When you shame her body, you disempower her voice. When you teach her that her value lies in how men see her and in her sexuality, you break her connection to the divine within. 

This was never random. This was never accidental.This was a system of control, and it’s still working today.

You might think things are different now. I’m not affected by those old beliefs. But the truth is: we all are. You may think: That’s not me. I’m empowered. I’m free. But we’ve all been touched by it. It's in the collective air we breathe. And while some laws have changed, we are still living in a rape culture and the system that devalues the feminine still thrives.

Even now, the collective energy around us is infused with ancient conditioning.
Even now, women are taught to use their sexuality as currency—to secure attention, affection, and security.Even now, your voice is often second-guessed. Your power is still threatening. Your body is still politicized and sexualized.

So Here is the Invitation:

- Not to be afraid. But to remember.
- To reclaim and reconnect with the fullness of your sexual power.
- To rise in this new frequency of the feminine.

 The time has come for a new frequency of the feminine to emerge within you.

It’s time to activate your authentic feminine power within your heart, mind, and body. Within your sacred portal or vulva, womb.  To release the shame, fear, lack of self-worth — the version that was shaped to please others, seduce, or survive. The time has come for you to know who you truly are. To be the sexually sovereign woman that your ancestress Lilith the First Woman was and still is. 

​So How Do You Begin? Here Are a Few Suggestions.

 1. Reclaim your body as sacred.
Start with the place they told you was shameful—your vulva, yoni, punani, pussy.
This is your sacred portal, your center of creation, your connection to divine wisdom.
Honor it. Bless it. Speak its name with reverence. Reconnect with Her.

 2. Create rituals of body love.
Draw a bath with candles and essential oils. Gaze at yourself in the mirror and speak praise over your body. Anoint your skin with love. Touch yourself with gentleness and awe. You are not just worthy—you are holy.

 3. Meet one of the true feminine archetypes.
Study Lilith and reconnect with her lineage—not the demonized version, but the sovereign first woman, who refused submission and embodied divine sexual power. Let her story awaken something wild and free in your soul. She is a guide for what’s possible when we stop asking for permission and apologizing for being a woman.

 4. Use your voice.
Ask for what you want. Speak your truth—even if it shakes at first.
Start small. Practice often. Grow bolder. Especially in your intimate relationships, where voice and vulnerability are key.

This is not just a call for empowerment—it’s a sacred remembering. A return to your deepest self. A breaking of the spell that was cast so long ago. 

You were never meant to shrink, hide, or apologize for being a woman. You were meant to lead, love, and live fully alive and awake.
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The new frequency of the feminine is rising—and it's unstoppable. Together, we have the power to awaken, reclaim what was once hidden, and anchor this sacred energy into a new paradigm for women, and for the world.

You are not just witnessing the shift. You are the shift.

If you choose to use your voice, love your body, and speak your truth you will help reshape the future for you, your daughters, and their daughters. Now is the time.

​Will you answer the call?


​If you are ready to take the next step you can contact me directly at [email protected] or download my Living Goddess Guide if you haven't already. 

​Recently, I revisited Peggy Ornstein's insightful book, "Girls and Sex," penned in 2016. It was a journey to reconnect with her research and insights into various aspects of girls' experiences and perspectives on sexuality, relationships, and identity. I wanted to see if there had been any shifts since the book's publication and, if so, what they were. Did girls still navigate similar challenges in the realms of sex, dating, and the infamous hook-up culture? 

As someone deeply entrenched in teaching women's sexuality and serving as a sex educator for years, I found some of the anecdotes from young women disheartening. Their accounts of navigating the patriarchal landscapes of college life, particularly within dorms, sororities, or frat houses, shed light on persistent issues. Questions lingered: Was the outdated excuse of "boys will be boys" still prevalent, especially within fraternities? Did girls still feel pressured to conform, to be sexually active, to be seen as fun, despite the potential drawbacks of the hook-up scene?

Reflecting on the narratives shared, I couldn't help but wonder about the underlying implications of the hook-up culture. Did the need for alcohol to facilitate casual encounters suggest a deeper issue with self-perception? It appeared that despite societal progress, the hook-up scene remained skewed in favor of male desires, often overlooking female satisfaction and emotional needs.

While some women may find temporary liberation or exploration in casual encounters, it often comes at a cost. Many remain unaware of their sexual preferences or feel too embarrassed to voice their desires. For them, losing their virginity or engaging in non-committal encounters becomes more about fitting in than finding fulfillment.

Listening to contemporary accounts, it's apparent that satisfaction with hook-up dynamics remains elusive for many women. The casual nature of these encounters often precludes emotional intimacy, leaving participants unfulfilled and disconnected. There's a prevailing sentiment that getting too close to a hook-up partner is discouraged, as it blurs the lines into traditional dating, which itself seems to be viewed as antiquated or undesirable.

Drawing from personal experiences, I acknowledge the allure of casual encounters as a means of exploration, but also recognize their limitations. Like many, I traversed my twenties experimenting with casual hook-ups, yet found true sexual empowerment only through self-discovery and leaving behind the hook-up scene. Taking charge of my pleasure became paramount, as I realized that relying solely on a partner for satisfaction was unsustainable.

Regrettably, it seems that despite the passage of time, the dynamics of the hook-up culture remain largely unchanged. Women, especially those inexperienced in sexual matters, continue to encounter one-sided encounters where their needs are often sidelined. It's disheartening to realize that decades later, many young women still grapple with similar challenges and frustrations.

In contrast, dating emerges as a platform for genuine connection and exploration. It offers the opportunity to engage with others on a deeper level, fostering communication and understanding. For those seeking meaningful relationships, dating serves as a vital tool for gauging compatibility and shared goals.

Ultimately, the question persists: Does the prevalent hook-up culture truly empower women, or does it ensnare them in the illusion of liberation? While there may be fleeting benefits, the broader impact on women's sexual autonomy and fulfillment warrants critical examination.

We need to talk openly respect each other, and build real connections to improve things. By focusing on understanding ourselves, feeling strong, and ensuring we're happy, We can make relationships more fulfilling for everyone. It's time to move past just seeking quick thrills and start valuing deep connections and real pleasure in our relationships.

Moving forward, fostering a culture that values open communication, mutual respect, and genuine emotional connection is paramount to reshaping perceptions and practices surrounding sexuality and relationships. Encouraging self-exploration, empowerment, and prioritizing individual fulfillment can pave the way for more fulfilling, enriching experiences for all individuals, transcending the limitations of a culture fixated on fleeting pleasures and superficial connections.

I have delineated five basic aspects of  the goddesses of love and sexuality.  They are love and beauty, or the Goddess of Love, Sensuality and Beauty, the instinctual feminine, or the Primal Goddess, the Sexual Initiatress who encompasses both the sexual healer and sacred Courtesan. These aspects represent our sexual expression in a variety of roles. 
 
In our modern world, women are still greatly influenced by the images of women in the media that they see.  We only see one or two aspects that are often very limited in how they portray women and women's sexual empowerment. 
 
Women often fear, hide, are ashamed, or exploit their sexual power. Even if they don't know that they are doing so. Very few women fully understand what their authentic feminine power is and how to use it.  We don't  know how to embody it.

 When images of the feminine are distorted to fit a particular cultural standard that has been defined by patriarchal standards of femininity, we forget what it feels like to be whole, sexually empowered and integrated with all aspects of our sexual expression.  We forget how to stand strong, feel beautiful, confident, safe in our bodies and be in control of our sexual energy. 
 
What I have come to realize is that all women have all of these aspects of the goddess of love within them, and we need to integrate all of them; to learn how to be comfortable with each aspect so that we can feel whole, sovereign, and free to express all of our sexual roles and yet not be defined by them.
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Embracing the Goddesses of Love in You
The first thing is to begin to understand who these images of the feminine are to you personally is to take the time to find out who you most identify with.

Ask yourself these questions:

• Which aspects do I fear or feel comfortable with?
• Who draws me in and fascinates me?
• Which aspect do I long to know better?
•  How am I currently showing up in the world regarding my sexual power and expression?

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For the most part, women have been forced to use their sexuality to survive. We see throughout history that women’s sexual power has been feared, her body a symbol of life and the power to create was made to seem evil, something that tempted men away from the divine.

Through getting to know the various archetypes of the goddess which represent feminine sexuality and love we can begin to learn more about ourselves and our sexual expression. We can also begin to embody more of the qualities we wish to express.