The story of womanhood has been told — but not by women.

Men have defined what it means to be feminine, to be beautiful, to be sexual. They crafted an image of womanhood that served their power, not our truth. Over generations, these distorted ideals became embedded into our culture, our religions, our schools — and even into our own self-perceptions.

This rewriting began during the early Bronze and Iron Ages, when the Great Mother Goddess — once revered as the source of all life — was systematically erased. As patriarchal religions rose, they replaced the feminine divine with a singular masculine god: a god of war, control, and authority. It was not merely spiritual—it was political. 

By stripping women of their connection to creation, sensuality, and self-sovereignty, those in power could more easily dominate and manipulate society. If you take away a woman's sexual power, her body, and her voice, you control the future.

Over time, the Divine Feminine was turned into something dangerous. Women's bodies became symbols of temptation. Our emotions were dismissed as hysterical. Our sensuality became taboo. Shame replaced sacredness.

But we’ve been taught to fear it. To reject it. To deny it in ourselves and in each other.

This wasn’t just about individual women — it was about dismantling a whole frequency of feminine life force energy: Shakti.

That energy lives in your body.
It lives in your womb.
It lives in your truth.

But we’ve been taught to fear it. To reject it. To deny it in ourselves and in each other. Even today, women are taught — overtly and subtly — to use their sexuality as  a commodity. To sell it for attention, love, or material security. Media still tells us that our worth is based on our sexual appeal to men. And although we’ve made progress in recent decades, the deeper paradigm hasn't changed. The male-dominated power structure still echoes through our lives.

So what do we do now?
We rise — not in opposition, but in remembrance.
We return to the truth that has always lived inside us.
We reclaim what was never meant to be taken.

The time has come to awaken to your authentic feminine power — and to embody it in a completely new way.

This new paradigm of sacred feminine power begins with you. When you rise, when you heal, when you love yourself — it sends waves through the collective. You become a living ley line of the feminine grid. You anchor the New Earth with every breath, every truth, every sacred "yes" to yourself.

The truth is: The New Earth is already here. But to live in it, you must raise your vibration and embody the new feminine frequency.
You must become the woman you were born to be — not the one the world told you to become.

 I invite you to join me and a growing sisterhood of awakening women. 
Receive your FREE Living Goddess Guide: Redefining Your Erotic Sense of Self — and begin your journey home to your body, your power, and your sacred pleasure,
and together, we will rise.

With love,
Luminessa Enjara

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​Recently, I revisited Peggy Ornstein's insightful book, "Girls and Sex," penned in 2016. It was a journey to reconnect with her research and insights into various aspects of girls' experiences and perspectives on sexuality, relationships, and identity. I wanted to see if there had been any shifts since the book's publication and, if so, what they were. Did girls still navigate similar challenges in the realms of sex, dating, and the infamous hook-up culture? 

As someone deeply entrenched in teaching women's sexuality and serving as a sex educator for years, I found some of the anecdotes from young women disheartening. Their accounts of navigating the patriarchal landscapes of college life, particularly within dorms, sororities, or frat houses, shed light on persistent issues. Questions lingered: Was the outdated excuse of "boys will be boys" still prevalent, especially within fraternities? Did girls still feel pressured to conform, to be sexually active, to be seen as fun, despite the potential drawbacks of the hook-up scene?

Reflecting on the narratives shared, I couldn't help but wonder about the underlying implications of the hook-up culture. Did the need for alcohol to facilitate casual encounters suggest a deeper issue with self-perception? It appeared that despite societal progress, the hook-up scene remained skewed in favor of male desires, often overlooking female satisfaction and emotional needs.

While some women may find temporary liberation or exploration in casual encounters, it often comes at a cost. Many remain unaware of their sexual preferences or feel too embarrassed to voice their desires. For them, losing their virginity or engaging in non-committal encounters becomes more about fitting in than finding fulfillment.

Listening to contemporary accounts, it's apparent that satisfaction with hook-up dynamics remains elusive for many women. The casual nature of these encounters often precludes emotional intimacy, leaving participants unfulfilled and disconnected. There's a prevailing sentiment that getting too close to a hook-up partner is discouraged, as it blurs the lines into traditional dating, which itself seems to be viewed as antiquated or undesirable.

Drawing from personal experiences, I acknowledge the allure of casual encounters as a means of exploration, but also recognize their limitations. Like many, I traversed my twenties experimenting with casual hook-ups, yet found true sexual empowerment only through self-discovery and leaving behind the hook-up scene. Taking charge of my pleasure became paramount, as I realized that relying solely on a partner for satisfaction was unsustainable.

Regrettably, it seems that despite the passage of time, the dynamics of the hook-up culture remain largely unchanged. Women, especially those inexperienced in sexual matters, continue to encounter one-sided encounters where their needs are often sidelined. It's disheartening to realize that decades later, many young women still grapple with similar challenges and frustrations.

In contrast, dating emerges as a platform for genuine connection and exploration. It offers the opportunity to engage with others on a deeper level, fostering communication and understanding. For those seeking meaningful relationships, dating serves as a vital tool for gauging compatibility and shared goals.

Ultimately, the question persists: Does the prevalent hook-up culture truly empower women, or does it ensnare them in the illusion of liberation? While there may be fleeting benefits, the broader impact on women's sexual autonomy and fulfillment warrants critical examination.

We need to talk openly respect each other, and build real connections to improve things. By focusing on understanding ourselves, feeling strong, and ensuring we're happy, We can make relationships more fulfilling for everyone. It's time to move past just seeking quick thrills and start valuing deep connections and real pleasure in our relationships.

Moving forward, fostering a culture that values open communication, mutual respect, and genuine emotional connection is paramount to reshaping perceptions and practices surrounding sexuality and relationships. Encouraging self-exploration, empowerment, and prioritizing individual fulfillment can pave the way for more fulfilling, enriching experiences for all individuals, transcending the limitations of a culture fixated on fleeting pleasures and superficial connections.