​Recently, I revisited Peggy Ornstein's insightful book, "Girls and Sex," penned in 2016. It was a journey to reconnect with her research and insights into various aspects of girls' experiences and perspectives on sexuality, relationships, and identity. I wanted to see if there had been any shifts since the book's publication and, if so, what they were. Did girls still navigate similar challenges in the realms of sex, dating, and the infamous hook-up culture? 

As someone deeply entrenched in teaching women's sexuality and serving as a sex educator for years, I found some of the anecdotes from young women disheartening. Their accounts of navigating the patriarchal landscapes of college life, particularly within dorms, sororities, or frat houses, shed light on persistent issues. Questions lingered: Was the outdated excuse of "boys will be boys" still prevalent, especially within fraternities? Did girls still feel pressured to conform, to be sexually active, to be seen as fun, despite the potential drawbacks of the hook-up scene?

Reflecting on the narratives shared, I couldn't help but wonder about the underlying implications of the hook-up culture. Did the need for alcohol to facilitate casual encounters suggest a deeper issue with self-perception? It appeared that despite societal progress, the hook-up scene remained skewed in favor of male desires, often overlooking female satisfaction and emotional needs.

While some women may find temporary liberation or exploration in casual encounters, it often comes at a cost. Many remain unaware of their sexual preferences or feel too embarrassed to voice their desires. For them, losing their virginity or engaging in non-committal encounters becomes more about fitting in than finding fulfillment.

Listening to contemporary accounts, it's apparent that satisfaction with hook-up dynamics remains elusive for many women. The casual nature of these encounters often precludes emotional intimacy, leaving participants unfulfilled and disconnected. There's a prevailing sentiment that getting too close to a hook-up partner is discouraged, as it blurs the lines into traditional dating, which itself seems to be viewed as antiquated or undesirable.

Drawing from personal experiences, I acknowledge the allure of casual encounters as a means of exploration, but also recognize their limitations. Like many, I traversed my twenties experimenting with casual hook-ups, yet found true sexual empowerment only through self-discovery and leaving behind the hook-up scene. Taking charge of my pleasure became paramount, as I realized that relying solely on a partner for satisfaction was unsustainable.

Regrettably, it seems that despite the passage of time, the dynamics of the hook-up culture remain largely unchanged. Women, especially those inexperienced in sexual matters, continue to encounter one-sided encounters where their needs are often sidelined. It's disheartening to realize that decades later, many young women still grapple with similar challenges and frustrations.

In contrast, dating emerges as a platform for genuine connection and exploration. It offers the opportunity to engage with others on a deeper level, fostering communication and understanding. For those seeking meaningful relationships, dating serves as a vital tool for gauging compatibility and shared goals.

Ultimately, the question persists: Does the prevalent hook-up culture truly empower women, or does it ensnare them in the illusion of liberation? While there may be fleeting benefits, the broader impact on women's sexual autonomy and fulfillment warrants critical examination.

We need to talk openly respect each other, and build real connections to improve things. By focusing on understanding ourselves, feeling strong, and ensuring we're happy, We can make relationships more fulfilling for everyone. It's time to move past just seeking quick thrills and start valuing deep connections and real pleasure in our relationships.

Moving forward, fostering a culture that values open communication, mutual respect, and genuine emotional connection is paramount to reshaping perceptions and practices surrounding sexuality and relationships. Encouraging self-exploration, empowerment, and prioritizing individual fulfillment can pave the way for more fulfilling, enriching experiences for all individuals, transcending the limitations of a culture fixated on fleeting pleasures and superficial connections.

Our very existence is at stake here. The Earth is organic and evolves just as we do. Divine Intelligence, Consciousness, or the Unified Field, or whatever you choose to call it, is everywhere and in everyone. The Earth, Gaia is also a conscious being and she is evolving into a higher vibration just as we do.

You can choose to move into a higher vibration or not. Whichever you choose will determine where you live either on a 3D planet, material and dense as we are now, or a 5D planet one that is evolving into a lighter more unified state of consciousness. All versions of our planet will exist simultaneously. Those living from Christ consciousness and love will just be vibrating at a higher frequency than those that are not and so they will not be seen.

What this means is that each of us has only one choice to make as we begin this new year. I say one choice because, for me, there is only one big choice that will determine which world you choose to live in and where we will put our attention.

Are you ready for a world that is truly based on love and unification where with all life wherever it may be or not?   A world without war, hunger, suffering, illness, or poverty, a world where all human beings have the opportunity to evolve into the Divine Human they were intended to evolve into and to use all of their divine or as some say superhuman gifts.
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Or do you choose whether consciously or by absentience a world that worships technology and continues to offer only pain, suffering, illness, struggle, war, death, poverty, and servitude to a small autocratic group of individuals?

I invite you this year, to take all the time you need to think things through and feel into your heart, and before choosing to accept something as fact, or to go a certain way, give yourself the time to feel into the choices being presented to you. We are all at the choice point and that means that each of us has a responsibility this year to be thoughtful with all of our choices, especially with those that will determine which world we wish to create. ​​

The New Feminine Rising is an exciting opportunity for you as a woman to transform the way you embody and express your sexual power, allure, and essence.

​This is a personal conversation delving into what it truly means to be fully in touch with your sexuality—awake, integrated, and empowered.

The question of how we, as women, wield our sexual power and allure is now at the forefront. This potent force resides within our wombs, a mysterious magnetic power that draws us back to our divinity—the primal energy of the feminine.

In the journey of the New Feminine Rising, the stigma around being an alluring woman is dismantled, and this timeless term is redefined. Today, being an alluring woman means maintaining a vibrant passion and embracing an erotic nature. It's about being a woman inspired by her vision, proudly wearing her womanliness without apology. She understands how to harness the power of attraction within her sacred womb.

For her, sexuality is an art expressed at the right time, not a tool for manipulation. She no longer needs such tactics for survival. She is virginal unto herself, finding fulfillment and erotic satisfaction within, without relying on a man. This independence allows her to approach men without fear, embracing and loving them for who they are. She thrives in her sexual power, becoming a woman who is fulfilled on her terms.

When a woman no longer needs a man to feel fulfilled she is then free to love them for being who they are.

When a woman no longer relies on a man for fulfillment, she is free to love them authentically. With this newfound freedom, more and more women can stand tall, celebrating the magnificence of being a sexually potent, fully impassioned, and alive woman.

The New Feminine Rising invites you to embrace this transformation as a personal journey, a celebration of her unique power and essence.

With this as a guide more and more women can begin to stand tall and feel that being a sexually potent, fully impassioned, and alive woman is magnificent and something to be celebrated.

You can learn how to open more to your authentic sexual power and how to redefine your erotic sense of self by joining me and other amazing women on my monthly FREE calls.

Just go to my home page  http://www.newfemininerising.com​ click the button below the video and sign up for all my free gifts.  You will have the opportunity to register for the call and discover which aspects of the goddess of love and sexuality you most resonate with.   ​

What is Authentic Feminine Power?
When I speak of a woman's authentic feminine power I am speaking about  your sexual power.   Women by nature of their biology have a power that men can never have. That power is to create life as well as their natural sexual charisma. 

Beyond these two basic issues, a woman's full sexual power includes not only the power of her sex, but the power of her intellect, her love,  her courage, her wrath, her wildness, and her sovereignty. And so,  to control women and limit their influence over men who could easily be distracted, a culture of misogyny and rape was created to last thousands of years. 

 Our authentic feminine power also lies in our ability to know our bodies as sacred and holy. To reclaim our body as our own to do with as we choose, when we choose. Our power lies in knowing that we are sovereign a whole unto ourselves, and in our ability to take back our role as the sexual iniaitress.

This was always the role of women to initiate men into the sacred sensual arts of love.  Women were always the teachers of the arts of love because they understood the power of their shakti and sexual energy. But with the demise of the Mother Goddess as the Creatress of life, women no longer had power over their own sexuality.

 Reclaiming our feminine soul also means that we reclaim the story of Eve and the blame put upon all women for the downfall of humanity.  Reclaiming our innocence must start with each individual. Each woman must decide for herself that she is innocent, that her body is the temple of the Goddess, and that her sex is divine.

Her nature is not to serve man but to partner with him to co-create a world where women are seen once again as the emissaries of the divine feminine and men of the divine masculine.

When you reclaim the innocence of your body, the sacredness of your sex, and your sovereignty, you restore the feminine back to its original state of purity and potency. You begin to reconnect with your essential feminine power and rewrite the story of Eve for all women. 
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I have delineated five basic aspects of  the goddesses of love and sexuality.  They are love and beauty, or the Goddess of Love, Sensuality and Beauty, the instinctual feminine, or the Primal Goddess, the Sexual Initiatress who encompasses both the sexual healer and sacred Courtesan. These aspects represent our sexual expression in a variety of roles. 
 
In our modern world, women are still greatly influenced by the images of women in the media that they see.  We only see one or two aspects that are often very limited in how they portray women and women's sexual empowerment. 
 
Women often fear, hide, are ashamed, or exploit their sexual power. Even if they don't know that they are doing so. Very few women fully understand what their authentic feminine power is and how to use it.  We don't  know how to embody it.

 When images of the feminine are distorted to fit a particular cultural standard that has been defined by patriarchal standards of femininity, we forget what it feels like to be whole, sexually empowered and integrated with all aspects of our sexual expression.  We forget how to stand strong, feel beautiful, confident, safe in our bodies and be in control of our sexual energy. 
 
What I have come to realize is that all women have all of these aspects of the goddess of love within them, and we need to integrate all of them; to learn how to be comfortable with each aspect so that we can feel whole, sovereign, and free to express all of our sexual roles and yet not be defined by them.
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Embracing the Goddesses of Love in You
The first thing is to begin to understand who these images of the feminine are to you personally is to take the time to find out who you most identify with.

Ask yourself these questions:

• Which aspects do I fear or feel comfortable with?
• Who draws me in and fascinates me?
• Which aspect do I long to know better?
•  How am I currently showing up in the world regarding my sexual power and expression?

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For the most part, women have been forced to use their sexuality to survive. We see throughout history that women’s sexual power has been feared, her body a symbol of life and the power to create was made to seem evil, something that tempted men away from the divine.

Through getting to know the various archetypes of the goddess which represent feminine sexuality and love we can begin to learn more about ourselves and our sexual expression. We can also begin to embody more of the qualities we wish to express.

Being a master of yourself and your life is no longer just for the few.  It is no longer just for those who have ascended with or without their bodies or those who have become fully self-realized as have a few great Master Teachers or Saints. 

Today it is everybody's birthright to claim their sovereignty and learn how to follow their inner guidance. This part of yourself your inner self, higher self, or superconscious self has always been a part of you. You may not have known that it was a part of yourself or that you could connect with it consciously but it has always been a part of you.  

To recognize your full potential as a divine human and awaken fully to all of your dormant powers and abilities is what this time of transition is about. Now more than ever if we as a people who believe in our freedom to choose, to live freely as we wish, we are being called and pushed into taking the next step in our evolution. 

We are being asked individually and collectively to break free of the programming we have been living with as limited humans. Rather we are divine humans here to awaken to our full potential and to begin to live as the divine beings we came here to be.

Today we have a choice as to where we wish to put our attention. On our personal evolution and awakening to our true potential and self-awareness or to continue down the path of disempowerment, victimization, helplessness, and enslavement. The choice is becoming more clear with each passing day.  
 
 Will you choose to live from the mastery of your pure potential as the unlimited possibility of life or continue to follow your slave self-programming and ego-mind?   We all came here at this time to do one of two things.  To fulfill the Divine Plan of Heaven on Earth or to continue being a slave to the old systems of control and oppression.

​How Do We Live as a Master of Our Life?

• The mastery of being is an ongoing process of our evolution. It is learning how to sustain the highest vibrational frequencies of pure love which is the substance that the universe is made of which is called adamantine particles.
•  Doing your inner work, healing trauma, and your deepest wounds is all part of this process. You cannot bypass this shadow work with false concepts of spirituality. To master living in your essential beingness you will be called to confront those unhealed aspects of your psyche and to bring them into wholeness.
• Cultivating your inner witness or observer and you can distinguish between your ego-mind and personality, programmed self and your True Nature, or your essential self. 
• Begin to notice and be aware of when you identify with your personal self and the roles you play so that you can no longer identify with them.
•  Develop your ability to live continuously in the future present. This is to say that you begin to live as your future self would live being fully alive, happy, whole, abundant, healthy, and free.
  
• Learn to live as your Higher Self which you now have the opportunity to actually experience in a body if you are willing to do the inner development and work it will take.  

This is the time you were born to live in. The opportunity of all lifetimes. That is why there is such a calling for you to become conscious and step into your mastery. Now is the time for us to take our role seriously and to begin to truly believe that we are responsible for how this world will play itself out. We are the ones who are establishing a new world amid the dissolution of the old. It is essential that you consciously choose which world you wish to live in.

We all have to not just change but to transform how we think and how we feel especially how we feel through our hearts. That is where your spiritual quickening of being is optimized. We are all at a crossroads of choice as to the world we wish to create and live in. The mastery of living from the totality of your beingness is the opportunity that is being offered to you and I hope that you will join me in becoming a Master of Being.


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